Blessed Beyond Measure

Hello world! Guess who’s back? Wow… I can’t believe it has already been nearly 4 months since the last time I blogged. I love writing but am so bad at keeping up with this with all I’ve got going on… I do, however, feel like letting a few months pass before writing again allows me to look back and put into perspective just how much has happened in that time.

2016 has really been out of this world… I declared it my year and that’s just what it has been… Now, I’m not saying it has not had its share of ups and downs, because it most certainly has… But I am definitely at a point in my life where I know how to focus on the good and find the lessons in the not-so-good…

When I last blogged in June, I was getting ready to be sworn in and admitted as an attorney. That finally happened for me in August… I still can’t believe that it’s something that happened and it’s most certainly something I took the time to celebrate and be proud of because I always focus on the next thing I want to accomplish and tend to overlook my own achievements and just push myself to do more. I know I have worked really hard to earn everything I have achieved and am proud of myself for not giving up every time a new challenge presented itself… I have been learning so much about myself and I like who I have become and continue to grow into someone I can be happy to share with the world….

Also since my last post, I had the trip of my dreams. My lifelong dream of traveling to New York came true in late August and I still feel like pinching myself sometimes just thinking about all of the experiences I had there and all of the dreams that came true… I have so much to share about that experience, that it may be best for me to blog about it separately in different entries so… Watch this space for that…. Coming soon…. Before end of 2016 for sure…. LOL….

So much has happened that my mind is all over the place. There are certain things I don’t feel the time is right for just yet so I won’t blog about them until I feel ready but I just wanted to acknowledge how blessed I have been and how thankful I am for the experiences I have had….

I have built such meaningful and positive relationships and walked away from those that were negative… It’s really true what they say… We have to let go of some things to make space for better things which God has in store for us….

I have released a lot of what I held on to and held me back and have discovered a renewed sense of self and strength… I am learning to trust the process and believe that the best is ahead and the worst is behind me… I have faced many of my fears head on and have seen that there was nothing to be afraid of… So many of our fears are irrational and we perceive them to have some crazy power over us… We allow them to push us into a corner wherein we build a comfort zone… But that comfort zone is a place of mere basic existence…. It holds us back from living life fully without limitations…. It keeps us from being our complete selves capable of all the greatness in the world… It keeps us from soaring and flying….

Our minds should be focused… Our hearts should be open… Our sights should be set on the future… There is no progress in looking back…. Looking forward to all that is ahead and pursuing it tirelessly and without fear is what will take us to the next level… Nothing beats waking up in the morning knowing your purpose and taking another step towards fulfilling it….

Face your fears. Live your dreams!!!!!

Catch you on the flip side!!!!

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10 STEPS TO MAKING THE BEST OF 2016

The much anticipated New Year has finally arrived. 2016 is here and social media is flooded with “new year, new me” statuses, New Year’s resolutions (most of which will fail within two weeks) and a whole lot of hype and excitement about the countless opportunities and potential for new beginnings on a clean slate that a new year represents for so many people around the world.

A few years ago, I stopped coming up with resolutions due to the stigma attached to them after the first couple of weeks go by and people tend to just revert to old habits year after year. I replaced annual resolutions with well-planned goals which I recorded and embarked upon achieving year after year and that proved effective…

This year I decided to compile a list of 10 steps which I feel would make 2016 a good year… Have a look and feel free to share and drop feedback, add on to the list, etc.

1. TRUST IN GOD

The fact is, different things will happen and life will not always go according to plan… We tend to want to control and plan everything but at some point or another, the unexpected will occur… That is why it’s so important to trust in God. It doesn’t matter what religion you belong to and how religious or spiritual you are… Whether or not you go to church… As a spiritual person, I am not here to preach or impose anything on anyone…

I am merely saying that ultimately, most of us believe in a higher power. A greater being  than ourselves.  Although it is not always easy to accept things we don’t understand and we tend to question why things happen particularly when life seems to be going South, at the end of it all, there has to be a reason and a purpose behind why everything turns out the way that it does. Trust that God has the best in store and just because it’s not what YOU consider to be the best for you, does not mean it’s not HIS best for you…. And He always knows BEST. Sometimes we need to go through something bad to get to something better. Remember that.

2. LOVE YOURSELF

This is something often neglected by many… We fail to acknowledge that how we feel about ourselves oftentimes manifests in how we treat those around us. It all starts within… Know your value and worth… Love and appreciate the person you are… That will ensure that the decisions you make which affect you will be good for you…

Do better. Be better. Do what makes you happy. Respect yourself. When you know what you deserve and you have the necessary peace inside you, that will govern how other people treat you… You will not allow others to undermine you, disrespect you, take you for granted or mistreat you because you will be aware of what you deserve and will not be afraid to claim it… You will also attract the right kind of people and not be afraid to let go of the wrong ones…

3. AVOID TOXIC PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS

If you want to truly have a chance at making this year a positive one and having it consist of more than failed new year’s resolutions, it’s important to identify and avoid the toxic and negative people and situations in your life. If you don’t remove them, how can you truly have a different mind-set? Avoid drama. As soon as you sense it coming – walk away!!!!

Toxic habits and people can become so familiar that sometimes it’s easy to incorporate them as permanent fixtures in our everyday lives. However, if they remain part of our lives, it is very unlikely that some of these much desired “changes” will have an opportunity to occur…

If someone was not good for you in 2015, guess what??? 2016 will be no different. People don’t change just because new calendars, diaries and resolutions are going viral worldwide… If it was toxic in 2015, remove it from your life and make room for more deserving and positive people and situations… Protect your space and circle. Not everyone deserves a seat in your life. A quote I read has stuck with me – “When someone shows you who they really are, don’t try to paint a new picture”…. If you master step 2 above, this 3rd step will come pretty naturally…

4. STAY INSPIRED

Remaining motivated and inspired means a great deal in being a happy individual and continuing on with yet another chapter in your life…

Different things inspire different people… Identify the internal and external triggers to keeping you inspired and incorporate them into your daily routine to keep you going…

Sometimes something as simple as reading a few inspirational quotes can brighten up a gloomy day… Feed your mind with inspirational reads. Write if it helps… Explore creativity… Socialize with people who bring out the best in you… Travel when you can…. The ways to stay inspired are countless…

5. SPEND YOUR TIME WISELY

Time goes by so fast, a whole year can flash before your eyes… If you fail to plan your time carefully and spend it wisely, you may find that you achieved very little or perhaps spent your time on the wrong things.

List your priorities… Schedule your time… Ensure that you structure yourself in such a way that business gets done… You have time for work but also for fun and quality time with those who matter to you most… And, of course, don’t neglect to leave some quiet time for yourself to gather your thoughts and remove yourself from all the commotion going on around you in order to recharge…

6. MAINTAIN CORE VALUES – HONESTY, HUMILITY, LOYALTY AND GRATITUDE

Maintaining honesty, humility, loyalty and gratitude as your core values will be rewarding in all the right ways… Honesty shows integrity and builds trust, which are indispensable in relationships of any kind…

Humility will keep you grounded irrespective of how much you achieve and it will leave room for more growth…

By showing loyalty you open yourself up to receiving loyalty in return… Although in reality, this may not always happen, we are responsible for ourselves… Lead by example and eventually others will follow suit.

By having gratitude within and appreciating all the ways in which you are already blessed, you will appreciate every new blessing even more… Don’t take anything for granted…

7. STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Our comfort zones are nothing more than prisons keeping us away from progress. Sometimes we have to get “uncomfortable” to blossom and become more than what we are… In order to build strength, achieve more and conquer our fears, our comfort zones must be left behind…

The only constant in life is change. And positive change lies with a positive mind and determination to step out of your comfort zone and bring your dreams to life one choice at a time….

8. BE CONSISTENT

Every accomplishment requires consistency… You want to achieve something? Work at it consistently until you do and then remain consistent in keeping it and nurturing it…

You want to create something? Be consistent!!! Everything from professional goals to personal relationships requires consistency… It’s about identifying what you want and being proactive and focused on it!!!!

9. BE A BLESSING

Random acts of kindness are not out of style… It makes little sense to strive towards maintaining a positive life and surroundings without expanding and sharing the positivity with others.

Do something unselfish for someone without expecting anything in return… Being an example can spark and inspire others too…

There are countless ways to be a blessing to others. Both big and small… You are only limited by your imagination… Put your thinking cap on and see how you can be a blessing to someone…

10. DON’T GIVE UP

Don’t ever give up on something because you think it would be too hard or that it is beyond your reach… Sometimes we run out of patience or stop and call it quits because we don’t want to fail… But you could be one hurdle away from succeeding at something… YOU are your only limit…

The above list consists of some of the first and most practical steps that came to mind…. There may be plenty of others… I hope this gave you something to think about…

Here’s to a wonderful year!!!!!

New Beginnings – It’s All About Perception

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Lately I’ve been observing the sunset & its astonishing beauty… Something I realized is that it never looks exactly the same as the previous day…
 Call me crazy, but it got me thinking about life & all each day represents… No two days are the same… One day is more gloomy than another… Or more colourful…. And just as we have days that feel harder & more complicated, we also have days that are bright & beautiful…
 It’s up to us to decide when we look up at the sky if we’re going to take forward the beauty & learn from the drama & baggage of ourselves (as well as others), leaving it behind us so as to enjoy a better tomorrow or if we’re just going to go through the motions of the same routine, expecting different results.
 We can all have a “better” tomorrow… A tomorrow without insecurities, fears, doubt in ourselves, our strengths & our value… A tomorrow without unnecessary troubles, things that are toxic & not good for us… A tomorrow that is one sunset away… And of course, there comes a sunrise that will be just as magnificent… And filled with prowess… A more beautiful day. Oftentimes, we’re a choice away from that day…
 I’ve made the choice to look beyond the negative things that can hold me back & instead focus on all the things that are good in my life & the countless possibilities of all the things I can achieve by focusing my mind on the things I really want in life….
 I’m doing things I never thought I would. But I’m thankful for the opportunities to grow & expand my horizons. Yes, I’m thankful & blessed. 2014’s a year for success!!!
 
(© Photography By: GMZee)
(Top: Pretoria Sunset, 9 January 2014)
(Bottom: Pretoria Sunset, 10 January 2014)